My Christmas Wish For All Of Us!
By Dan Polimino
It’s that time of year for my annual Christmas column. This is the one time of the year that I don’t write about business and instead focus on stories involving the human condition. In years past I have written about people that have made an impact on my life or people that have taught me such valuable life lessons. This year my column is devoted to a Christmas wish I have for all of you and it’s simply this… Civility.
I am so concerned that we as Americans have lost all ability to be civil towards one another that I decided to bring attention to it in this Christmas column. The loss of civility seems to be an epidemic that is sweeping across the nation and worst yet many American’s believe that violence is a solution. I don’t know anyone in my sphere of influence that believes violence is a solution to today’s modern-day problems. Yet we turn on the TV and day after day some innocent people are shot because someone was frustrated, angry or upset and decide violence was the answer. I even see this in real estate. Today’s real estate agent is more like a referee than anything else. We are usually trying to keep the peace between two parties that hate each other and they’ve never even met. I have a friend of mine that is title rep and she told me they had to call the police five times this year to break up a fistfight between the buyer and seller at the closing table. Can you imagine a fistfight with the buyer or seller at the closing table? I just shake my head and wonder how we got here?
There was a time when the other person on the other side of the table or the other side of the aisle had a bad idea or at least an idea we did not agree with. Today that same person not only has a bad idea but also is a bad person! That’s a major paradigm shift in our thought process just because we don’t agree on the same premise the other person is a bad person? We all know that’s not true. I have plenty of friends that do not share my political or religious views and you know what they are still my friends. We go out to lunch, we discuss our various points of view and yes we don’t agree, but instead, we agree to disagree. We have some laughs, talk about our common interests, our family, our kids and our careers. I don’t hate my friends that don’t share my views, I love my friends and we respect and listen to each other. More often than not by the time, we are done debating we have both come to the middle and found common ground. Why can’t this happen in Washington? Answer because it’s not happening in our local community, our local school board, our town, our city or our state. So what’s the answer? How do you change the culture?
Answer: It starts at home. President George W Bush was once asked in an interview what was the most pressing concern that kept him up at night as President? I thought he would say Al Qaeda or terrorism in general, but instead, he said the number one thing that keeps him up at night is the disintegration of the American family. Brilliant answer and I could not agree with him more. If you want to change the culture and bring back civility and respect for one another its starts at home. Are we teaching our kids the values of our grandfathers and great grandfathers? Are we calling out our kids and admonishing them for their bad behavior. Are we as parents setting the example? From there it moves outward to how we treat our neighbors and how we treat our colleagues at work, how we treat people in our town and in our city. The culture shift should start in a small concentric circle of your home and radiate out around you for miles and miles.
If we are going to survive and not become another story of a great nation that imploded from the inside out we need to make some changes and quickly. We need to respect each other’s point of view, agree to disagree, find common ground where we can work together and it has to be real not just a campaign slogan. We need to stop violence as a solution for disagreement and we need to police our own people that are creating or advocating the violence. That means Democrats and Republicans need to clean up their own bases of support by letting them know that hateful rhetoric and calls for violence are not permissible, will not be tolerated and will be met with swift consequences.
I don’t if this column will make a difference or if we will change. If we continue to turn to our elected officials to lead the culture change nothing will happen. This needs to start at home. Our elected officials will never be able to affect this type of change and we need to stop looking to them as leaders, heroes or example. They are just as flawed as the rest of us. No, real changes happen one person at a time, one relationship at a time, one home at a time.
My Christmas wish for all us this Holiday season is…Civility. Merry Christmas and we are praying 2018 is a blessed year for all of you.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
Dan Polimino is a Broker/Owner of the Colorado Dream House Team, Keller Williams Realty DTC. Contact the Colorado Dream House Team at 720-636-8703, email@example.com, codreamhouse.com or coloradodreamhouse.com